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Naked at Our Age – book review »
Who among us can’t remember confronting the disquieting notion of our aging parents having sex? The universal response? “Ewwwwww!” “Aging,” of course, being a very relative term. As adolescents it’s hard to imagine people over forty 
Anatomy of an Affair »
My husband has had an affair. Or, rather, is having an affair. I never imagined he would let someone come between us. Yet he continues to love her. 
Ask Libby »
After years of a slowly diminishing love life, about six months ago my husband started becoming noticeably more amorous. I was thrilled. 
Interview: Susie Bright »
There is surely no better icon of sex-positive feminism than Susie Bright, though it would be a disservice to leave her with that single attribute. She has been a prolific writer (a dozen books so far) and editor (the acclaimed “On Our Backs”), performer, radical activist, teacher, speaker and more. For more on Susie, visit [...] 
Being A Great Lover – At Any Age »
When we are in love, when we want someone to love us, we want to be an outstanding lover. It is a good ambition—but do not be misled by the idea that being a good lover is a matter of great beauty, or great technique or even great oratory. No, there are five elementary aspects of being a great lover—and none of them are as simple as 
The Myth of the Clitoral Orgasm »
Yes, of course I’m riffing on Anne Koedt’s famous 1970 work, The Myth of the Vaginal Orgasm, an icon of modern feminism. Now comes more bad press for the vagina from Elisabeth Lloyd, author of The Case of the Female Orgasm. It impresses Michael Castleman, sex educator and author in his own right, who assures the readers of |
DAILY FLASH!1/24/2012 Top Ten Sex Life Boosters and Busters – from RealAge.com [read more ...]
A Sweet Sexual Adventure Here’s a sweet sexual adventure. Act as if you are your partner and discuss your partner’s sexual desires from his or her perspective. As if you are your partner, speak in detail about your partner’s sexual preferences, what he or she finds to be the best turn-ons. [Read more ...] News & ViewsDoes sex get better after a divorce? In a great many cases, a definite ‘yes’! Is there a “sexual personality” prone to infidelity? This study says yes, definitely. Scientists discover “wild orgy” gene? Six (other!) great things sex can do for you. From our own Michael Castleman: Semen as antidepressant? Yes, says new study. The chemistry of kissing: Much more important than you might have guessed. THE DOCTOR’S CORNER
Lubrication issues? Dear Dr. Bortz, As a woman “of a certain age” but with a healthy sex life, I find it necessary to use additional lubrication. Water based products don’t seem to hold up well after a few minutes of intercourse, and discomfort can come on fairly quickly as it wears off. So why shouldn’t I use something more durable, like vaseline or body lotion? How fragile is my vagina anyway? Dr. Bortz: Atrophic vaginitis, secondary to reduced estrogen production, is a hallmark of older women’s health profile. Short of estrogen replacement therapy which is often problematic, the most common recourse is use of a lubricating liquid. Virtually all drug store chains have their own product but the most noted commercial entities are KY and Astroglide.The supposed gold standard product is Swiss Navy Lube which is mainly mail order.The name alone is enough to draw attention - – - – - – - - Cardiac Risk? This question was posed recently, and it’s in a class of questions that I get with surprising frequency: “I’m in my late fifties and had a cardiac “event” about six months ago. It was fairly mild, I’ve made major lifestyle changes (diet and exercise, cut back on alcohol) and my doctor says I’m doing great and should be back to a full life. I agree, enthusiastically. Problem is, my wife is not so sure. We’ve not had sex in six months, despite the return of a very healthy libido for me, post-surgery. She fears that the excitement and energetics of sex will give me another heart attack and maybe I won’t be so lucky next time. My doc tells me I shouldn’t worry about that, and in fact has been encouraging me to resume a normal sex life. My wife doesn’t have the nerve to talk directly to my doctor. What can you advise?” Dr. Bortz: What has your cardiologist advised about exercise? Did he tell you to walk, run, swim, bike? The exertion associated with intercourse is most often likened to climbing stairs. I assure you that if you are climbing stairs, you can be having sex! [Read more ...] |
Walter M. Bortz, M.D.